Hi! So, I had a bad day on Monday, like, a really bad day. Everything and anything that could go wrong, did go wrong and it was terrible. I was unpleasant to be around, and there may have been angry tears involved. It was joyful. Everyone has Bad Days, and they suck, but over time I have developed some basic tricks to pep myself back up, because Bad Days need to be nipped quickly, because I want to avoid Down Days as much as possible! (You can read about a Down Day here.) Here are my (very regularly) trialled and tested methods for dealing with a bad day; Talk/Rant to someone I did A LOT of this, but I find it is the most effective way to deal. If you're bottling up all your emotions and keeping them to yourself, the bad feelings will just spiral further and further. Talking to someone helps you work out your emotions, why you feel the way you do. Internalising just keeps your thoughts in that constant negative cycle. This is absolutely always my first step if I'm having a Bad Day, it just means that I don't feel quite so alone in it! Figure out the problem What's gone wrong? Is it work, a friend, a family member, your phone acting like a little bitch, you've forgotten to record an episode of your current favourite TV show? If you're having a Bad Day, the best thing to do is get to the root to it. With a Bad Day things can spiral off and everything feels like it's going wrong, but often there is a key event that has caused you to feel this way. Get to the source of the problem and try to figure out how to fix it. Try to move on This is the part I always find difficult. I am incredibly stubborn and hold onto things like a mofo. Like, once something bad happens, it gets engrained in my head and the little voice I am training to shut up, just keeps reminding me. I could forget for a moment and be laughing away, and that little voice will pipe up and be like 'HEY, don't forget that really shitty thing that happened!' aaaaaannnd that's the fun ruined. Holding onto the bad thing and letting it bring you down will only keep the Bad Day cycle going, so try to let it go. The next few steps will help with that! Find a Distraction Dance Party. Always a Dance Party.
Any excuse to link that song. (I swear I like more music, I just think this is one of the best songs ever. Ever.) For reals though, try and find something to keep your mind off it. I find a film, a book or, most often, a dance party, helps take my mind off whatever is bugging me. It always take a moment to get into it because you can't help but hold on to the bad, but if you let yourself just relax, doing something you like will always be the best distraction. Find something that makes you laugh Seriously, getting a good giggle will automatically make whatever shit has gone down not seem quite so bad. I laugh at/with my fiancé on the regular and, even if I'm feeling particularly grumpy, it always makes me feel better. Pop on a film, read a book, or chat to someone you know will make you laugh so hard your head feels like it'll pop off. But in a good way! Chocolate I'm fairly sure this needs no explanation. Chocolate is a miracle drug. Remember all the good things that happened If you're having a bad day, it's so easy to focus only on all the bad stuff, try to take a moment to remember anything good that happened. Even if it was only one good thing, just remember that, even on a day when everything went wrong, one thing went right!
Bad Day's will happen, because life is an unpredictable minx. Try to take them with a pinch of salt, because not all days will be bad. It's understandable to get wrapped up in a Bad Day and get yourself into a negative train of thought, but the best thing to do for yourself and everyone else, is to try and get it out of your system. It's hard, but it'll be totally worth it when you stop hating everyone haha. I'll leave it there for tonight, sorry for the delay in posting. Like I said, I had a really bad day and it takes me a little longer to get myself pepped up again! Let me know your tips and tricks for getting over a Bad Day, I'd love to add them to my list. You can hit me up below, or find me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, I'd love to see you there! I hope you all had an awesome day, and I'll chat to you soon. Be kind and be happy, Becca xo
Hi! I'll be real with you, I was going to post about the Makeup Academy Undress Me palettes but as I was editing the photos I realised that I, like a bellend, had forgotten to take all the pictures. I am such a smooth blogger. Super smooth. So I thought instead we could get to know each other a little better, assuming of course that you want to get to know me! Also, I've already told you an alarming amount about me, why not add to the list?! Here goes; 1. I have 2 sisters, 1 older and 1 younger (middle child syndrome is definitely a thing) and a very lovely Mum and Dad. And also an INSANE dog.
Deceptively cute.
I also have a second family (my boy's lovely lot) with a Mum, Dad and 2 sisters. Sadly, we lost his twin brother in 2008 and his sister in September but they are forever in our hearts. We also have 10 nephews and nieces who I love and adore.
2. I am originally from County Tyrone in Northern Ireland but I moved to England with my boy just over a year ago. 3. Speaking of my boy, I have been in a relationship for 9 years, 10 years this May. I have spent a decade with him. A DECADE. I do like him a lot. We got engaged Christmas 2014 and it was wonderful.
4. Ever since I was little I have been in love with films and have always wanted to act. I used to make my little sister (the older sister was far too cool to hang out with us, there were books to be read!) re-enact the entirety of The Lion King, in which I acted all the best characters and she always had to be the bad guys. Always. Poor pet! 5. 90's music is, and always will be, my absolute favourite. Nothing will be better. It is cheesy and amazing. Backstreet Boys are life. 6. My first proper crush was John Smith in Pocahontas. You can imagine my disappointment when I realised it was Mel Gibson. I mean, that was fine once upon a time, but he's a bit of a trainwreck now. Hilariously, he is the complete opposite of my type! Flynn Rider in Tangled though... Let's be honest, Disney princes in general. I blame them for my high standards in men.
7. My favourite programme on right now is The Originals. I have no words for how much I love that show. I know it's supposed to be a 'teen' show, and vampires are 'so overdone' but I JUST DON'T CARE. I am so involved. Also, Game of Thrones because IT IS AMAZING. 8. Corresponding nicely with that, my ultimate TV crush at the minute is Elijah (Daniel Gillies). HOLY SHITBALLS. THAT JAW.
Seriously?!
9. My all-time crush is Johnny Depp. I have been in love with that man since I was 11. Cannot say how disappointed with his mid-life crisis; the movie choices are terrible. Having said this, I am a very dedicated person. Once I love a person, I really love that person. Like, hardcore. And I am known to get a teeny, weeny, little bit obsessive. James McAvoy and Tom Hiddleston are featuring high on the list. I sound so creepy. Swear I'm not. (Maybe a little) (But in a good way!)
I mean, COME ON.
10. I am a feminist, which is something I say without shame or feeling like I need to qualify in any way. I love men (as is evidenced by the majority of my 'facts' being about men I am in love with) but I am a firm believer that all genders should be equal. 11. I am also 110% pro the LGBT community. I am pretty much in favour of everyone being given equal rights and everyone getting to do what they want, regardless of how they identify. 12. I have quite bad social anxiety, by which I mean I am VERY BAD with crowds and people in general. I have learnt how to deal with it quite well, but any social changes (new people, having to talk on the phone to people I don't know) makes me very nervous to the point of trying to not have a panic attack. It's so good I have a job where I never have to talk to people on the phone! (I say that with full sarcasm, that is literally 75% of my job). 13. I love writing, I am forever plotting and re-plotting books and scripts. My life aim (and it's a big one) is to write a book, or, even better, a script. I love the thought of seeing something I wrote on screen. 14. I am a panicker. I do not do well with deadlines, they make me indescribably nervous. Hence my very sporadic posting! I am getting a little better though, at least, I think so haha. 15. My absolute, all time favourite time of year is Winter. October-December are the best months!
16. I love, LOVE horror films. Like, all horror films, especially the really bad, cheesy American remakes. They are so bad they make me happy. 17. I am not a morning person. I am beyond the opposite of a morning person. I am a bed person.
18. I am a massive crybaby. I will, and have been known to, cry at everything. Including adverts on TV. I just have a lot of feelings! (10 points to Gryffindor if you get that reference) 19. My ultimate pet hate is rude people. Also, people who talk/use their phones in the cinema, but I guess it falls into the same category, because only rude toolbags use their phone in the cinema. FACT. 20. I am forever trying to see the good in people. I have been told frequently that I do this to a fault, but I'd rather see the good than the bad! 21. My favourite place to be is the beach. I could happily spend all day sitting beside the sea, I think it's so peaceful. 22. I have been considering starting a YouTube channel since the OG days of 2007/8 but keep putting it off. Largely because I hate the sound of my accent. I have been a hardcore YouTube fan for a very long .time. My all-time forever favourite is communitychannel. You should watch her immediately. You are welcome. 23. Trying to think of my all-time favourite films might actually cause me an aneurysm BUT I can give my current top films. At the minute it is Shaun of the Dead (always in the top 10), Sunset Boulevard, Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang, Rebel Without A Cause, Edward Scissorhands and The Guest. Just know, I nearly died coming up with that list. I am v.dedicated. 24. My favourite thing to do when I am home alone is dance party it out. Spotify on, volume up, and dance party my ass off. The only thing that ruins it are the smug Spotify ads that know they are ruining my dance party and taunt me by saying if only I upgraded to Premium. Bastards. This is a current (always) favourite!
25. Let's end on a weird one! I only like numbers that are multiples of 5, I dunno why, I think I just like the symmetry. Like I said, I do have a touch of an obsessive personality. Everything has be be right where it should be or I'll not be a happy bunny. I PROMISE I'M FUN. Alright, I'll leave it there for tonight! Let me know any interesting, or not interesting, facts about you. Do you share any of my obsessions? You can hit me up down below in the comments, or find me on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, my links can all be found on the side. I will chat to you soon! Be happy and be kind, Becca xo And here's a flashback song because, like I said, 90's music is THE BEST. And this is a classic.
